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How To Control Your Emotions and Achieve Success By Theodore Henderson The Wisdom Man Your emotions are nothing more than a power generator that is capable of keeping you revved up. They are reflected in your speech, the actions you take, and the behaviors you exhibit. How you feel towards an issue or particular situation reflects on your ability to handle the situation tactfully. Learning to master and control your emotions, and not be ruled by them, can help you deal with your setbacks and achieve success. This is known as emotional intelligence. The ability to leverage your emotional strengths successfully can help you achieve performance breakthroughs and cope with challenges and adversity on your path to success. Two excellent books on the topic of emotional intelligence are Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ and Emotional Intelligence 2.0. Below are four ways you can manage your emotions to achieve success. Become Aware of Your Emotions The first step in mastering your emotions is to become aware of when you are overly emotional or overreacting. Start by monitoring your emotions and give each one a name. At times you may find it challenging to identify precisely what it is you are feeling. By giving it a name, it can help you to gain clarity, which is an essential part of being able to move forward. Discover the 'Why' After you've discovered how you are feeling, you need to learn why you are feeling it. While there could be a million reasons, your mind will always try to look for the answer. Most of the time, the way you're thinking about a situation will cause you to feel the way you do. Another big reason why we tend to feel negative emotions is that our values aren't present at the time or being respected. You have to discover your 'why' if you want to master your emotions. Look for an Emotions Solution Now that you've discovered the 'why' behind your emotions, you can start to find solutions to take back control. Sometimes, it merely means changing the way you are thinking about the situation. While at other times, only understanding why you feel a certain way and at a particular time will help to diminish the negative emotions. Your thoughts lead directly to the way you think. So when you feel bad, it's most likely because you have a negative belief that is making you feel that way. Enjoy Your Free Copy Of The White Paper "5 Secrets To Staying Persistent In Your Path to Success" Click Here To Download Your Copy Now. Choose Your Reaction Choosing how you want to react is the hardest part of mastering your emotions. Our reactions and how we manage our feelings are a habit. Learning to listen to your feelings, identify them, understand them, and then chose them. This a continuous effort that will help you to start to build this essential skill. Still Not Convinced? TalentSmart tested emotional intelligence with 33 other essential workplace skills. They found that emotional intelligence is responsible for the following 6 compelling observations. The strongest predictor of performance, illustrating that it is responsible for a full 58% of success in all types of jobs. People with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70% of the time. That 90% of top performers are also high in emotional intelligence. Just 20% of bottom performers are high in emotional intelligence. People with a high degree of emotional intelligence make more money—on average, $29,000 more per year than people with a lower degree of emotional intelligence. The link between emotional intelligence and earnings is so direct that every point increase in emotional intelligence adds $1,300 to an annual salary. It is clear from the data that learning how to control your emotions properly advances your career as much or more in some cases than just technical skills. Conclusion - How to Control Your Emotions Once you can master your emotions, your life will significantly change. Not only will you feel more empowered and in control, but you will have a better chance of successfully accomplishing your goals. For a change of pace, here is the author of some exciting new millionaire mind hacks for personal and business success. So click here and take a free look. Lastly, remember intelligence is your ability to learn, and it's the same at age 15 as it is at age 50. Emotional intelligence, on the other hand, is a flexible set of skills allowing you to control your emotions for success. This ability can be acquired and improved with practice. So, whether you are an entrepreneur, business owner, corporate executive, or other, you need to control your emotions. You will not do it successfully without improving your use of emotional intelligence. About The Author Theodore Henderson works with business owners, entrepreneurs, and corporate professionals on their business skills, marketing, and leadership strategies. He is an Amazon best-selling author, a Certified Career Coach, Business Skills & Leadership Coach, and a Certified Social Media Security Professional Powered by CompTIA. - Visit The Wisdom4Business Blog for the complimentary series on business startup and entrepreneurship. - Also, visit TheHealthyBusinessOwner.com for timely and useful tips and strategies for living a healthier lifestyle.