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Focal Point – The Promise 2: Goals

“May he give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed.” Psalm 20:4 (NIV)

The Wisdom Compass by Theodore HendersonIf you have read any of my writings on biblical principal and scripture you know that I often advise you to pray and meditate on the “Word”. However you should pray and meditate on everything of importance in your life including your personal and financial success. Don’t be mislead by religious arguments about “prosperity gospel” and poverty somehow automatically making you holy. Understanding that your Creator encourages you to be the best you can be and scripture teaches and reinforces this.

However the difference between looking at God as an intergalactic ATM and praying for success both as a way to have a better life and honor your faith is the serious intent. By serious intent I’m speaking of your goals and the pursuit of them. Are they in writing? Do you pray and meditate daily, or at least regularly, on your goals? Do they represent your good character and integrity? Do you regularly seek out true scriptural reinforcement? Do you take regular real action in their pursuit? If not can you really be serious about pursuing success?

If you are goals are moving along towards fruition then congratulations. If they are not moving then it is time to properly identify the obstruction(s). You should list your 3 to 5 most important goals, such as, go to college, find a suitable spouse, get a better paying job, pursue your true vocation, etc. Having done that list the major obstacles that you feel are preventing them from progressing. If your mental state or outlook is an obstacle then list it. Honesty is necessary for forward movement.

In the book What They Don’t Teach You in the Harvard Business School, Mark McCormack describes a study conducted on students in the 1979 Harvard MBA program. For purposes of study that year the students were asked, “Have you set clear, written goals for your future and made plans to accomplish them?” Only three percent of the graduates had written goals and plans; 13 percent had goals, but they were not in writing; and a massive 84 percent had no specific goals in writing or otherwise! This is at the Harvard Business School so its easy to imagine how so many in the general population are frustrated with their lack of success.

In my book The Wisdom Compass“, now available on Amazon, I explain how to go about setting quality realistic goals and also share how I how set a goal to write the book within a certain timeframe and met my goal.

The author Brian Tracy in his book “Goals!” explains the SMART approach to goal setting. SMART means the goal must be: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-certain. Unless a goal meets each of those criteria do not consider it to be a valid goal.

He gives the following examples of true written goal setting. He contrasts some common “goals” people aspire to with the SMART goal alternative. Why are the SMART goals better? What’s “wrong” with the common “goals” most people set for themselves? See for yourself.

Common “goal”: To lose 10 pounds in two weeks.

SMART goal: I walk one mile every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday and I weigh 175 on November 30.

Common “goal”: To make more money.

SMART goal: I have increased my income every month this year and am earning $250,000 per year on December 31, 2011

Common “goal”: To get published in a magazine.

SMART goal: I send a targeted query letter pitching article ideas to Redbook magazine every week.

You are probably thinking this is way too much work and time. Guess what? You’re right. it will take time and some real thought. That’s why such a large percentage of Americans have no written goals.

You can either drift through life or you can have direction through life by taking the time to think through where your Creator wants you to be. The choice is simple a life discipline or a lifetime of regrets.

Read Focal Point – The Promise Pt 1 here.

Focal Point – The Promise

Focal Point – The Promise by Theodore HendersonWhat is your vision for your life over the next 5, 10, 15, or even 50 years?  We must live in the moment and enjoy what we have but that certainly doesn’t mean we can have a far ranging outlook deep into the future.  Successful career coaching and mentoring always includes a far ranging vision in addition to methods for handling your near term necessities.  For example the Five O’clock Club uses a 40-year vision plan as part of your career transformation process.

A vision plan is important because it is the map of your journey.  Every journey has two things in common, a beginning and an end point. It may sound like common sense but so many of us have no direction and no focus.  We must literally take the time to determine where we are in life. 

  • Where are you in your career? 
  • Where are you spiritually? 
  • Where are you financially?
  • Where are you emotionally? 
  • Where are you in terms of your relationships with family and friends?

Keep asking yourself these types of questions about the key areas of your life.  Your direction is determined by the quality of the questions and the content of the answers.  The answers will define what needs to change.  Your response will determine what will change. 

The next step is to be very precise about what you want.  You wanting to become a millionaire is not precise.  You wanting to become a millionaire because you have determined that amount or more will allow you to pay off debt, send your children to college, invest in your faith and community, and start the business you have planned for is precise.  It has emotional impact and forms the basis to drive forward. 

Vague goals generally don’t work and get you nowhere. The more general they are, the less power they have. But the more specific they are, the more sway and authority they have in your life. 

Define your goal in terms of the positive or desired outcome not the problem at hand.  As per the Merriam-Webster dictionary a promise is a reason to expect; especially: ground for expectation of success, improvement, or excellence <shows considerable promise>. 

Compare this to a problem, which is a source of perplexity, distress, or vexation.  Therefore the question is should we focus on the promise or the problem?  I chose the promise because if you focus on disease you get sick but if you focus on good health the likely hood of better health dramatically increases.  You can focus on previous bad relationships or you can focus on the good one you are in (or to come).  Either way whatever we focus on we move toward.  Move toward the promise and put distance between yourself and the problem. 

An excellent biblical representation of this is in Genesis chapter 24:7 “The LORD, the God of heaven, who brought me out of my father’s household and my native land and who spoke to me and promised me on oath, saying, ‘To your offspring [a] I will give this land’-he will send his angel before you so that you can get a wife for my son from there.”  This was the promise. 

12 Then he prayed, “O LORD, God of my master Abraham, give me success today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. 13 See, I am standing beside this spring, and the daughters of the townspeople are coming out to draw water. 14 May it be that when I say to a girl, ‘Please let down your jar that I may have a drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too’-let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you have shown kindness to my master.”  This was his plan. 

15 “Before he had finished praying, Rebekah came out with her jar on her shoulder. She was the daughter of Bethuel son of Milcah, who was the wife of Abraham’s brother Nahor.”  The promise fulfilled.

These verses are excerpt from the story of Isaac and Rebekah in Genesis chapter 24 and it contains all of the elements of focusing on the promise, a compelling goal, successful planning and fruition.  It is a lesson worth remembering.

The Certitude of Uncertainty

It is always interesting to watch the talking heads on TV speak with such certainty about what would happen if we follow their advice on the economy, foreign policy, war, industry, and just about anything else they feel compelled to pontificate on. They apparently (if you believe everything they say) even understand how we should best conduct our relationships with family and friends.  Amazing clairvoyance, but luckily enough for those of us in the real world we have a greater strength to draw on than that, our faith in our Creator.

The only certainty we have is that there will be always be uncertainty in life and we will have to deal with it.  Either we will face it head on or we will cower in the corner and allow it whack us on the head without fighting back. Which is better?

Recently I saw a movie on DVD called “As Far as My Feet Will Carry Me”.  It is a fact-based story of a German soldier who escapes a Siberian labor camp in the wake of WWII and travels 8,000 miles on foot over three tortuous years to reach his family back home. It is a story of love, faith, divine providence, goals, and desire. These five attributes saved his life because a 25 year sentence in a Siberian labor camp is a death sentence.  He chose life, and more importantly he chose action.

The Bible gives us certain principles for facing an unsure future:

Set goals according to your Creator’s direction. Pray and meditate over the important areas of your life. If your life is worth living it’s worth praying about.  I personally will not make a plan or take any action of importance without anchoring it with prayer and biblical reference.

Jeremiah 29:11-13 (New International Version)

11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.

13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart

This sounds like a great back up when trouble hits!

Even though I just mentioned planning, you still have to live one day at a time– so live!  Don’t beat yourself up for what didn’t happen for you or what you didn’t accomplish as each day is a fresh start. Get up tomorrow morning and be sure to at some point during the day acknowledge that it is good to have a new day and a new opportunity to do something with meaning!  Stop dithering and do something important. See someone you haven’t seen in a while, but need to. Do something you really should do but have procrastinated about, or begin something you have only dreamed of but never started. Each day is precious and each day is an opportunity to be just a little better than you were the day before

The personal life deeply lived always expands into truths beyond itself. ~ Anais Nin

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